Monday, August 16, 2010

How Just One Simple Change in Your Thinking can make You 100% Happier and Healthier!

This could be the most important article I’ve ever written…

…here’s why…

I’ve recently discovered the number one reason why most people get anxious, sad, and depressed.

It’s NOT lack of money. And it’s NOT being in a job you hate. It really is, much, much, more simple than that. And when I tell you, you’ll be stunned! Because, it’s such an obvious thing.

And you’ll be pleased to know that you can make yourself HAPPIER—IMMEDIATELY once you have the secret. You’ll instantly feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You find you’ll be able to focus on what YOU want. You won’t be re-active to the actions of other people any more.

You’ll be FREE—and in control of your life again.

In fact, I’m 100% sure that if you were to make this quick and easy change today, you’d get rid of 80% of your daily stress.

Just imagine, you’re feeling stressed and anxious. You’re not sure why. Then all of a sudden, you remember the secret. You make one tiny shift in your thinking, and then to your amazement, you relax…you feel at ease…and it seems like you don’t have a care in the world.

The Secret

Okay, I’ll put you out of your misery. ALL UNHAPPINESS IS CAUSED BY COMPARISION.

Before I explain, here’s a question: Are you in the habit of comparing yourself with others? If the answer is yes, then you’re probably making yourself more unhappy than you need to.

So what do I mean by comparison?

Here are a few examples:

“Why does Bill make more money than me? He's in the same business as I am”

Or, “Why is my figure not like Susan’s, I go to the gym just as much as her.” Or “All our friends have BIGGER houses than us— we’ve got to move.”

I’m sure most of us have had this kind of internal dialogue going on inside our heads at some time or another. But, when it becomes a habit, that’s when anxiety and unhappiness creeps in.

The curse of comparison

So now you know what I believe to be the no.1 reason we make ourselves anxious and miserable. Of course, I didn’t invent this idea, much has been written over the centuries about this subject. It’s just that now more than ever before, people tend to make themselves miserable with this negative way of thinking.

So, next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, just STOP, BACK UP, and remind yourself that it’s not about what others have got, it’s about what you have, and what you want to achieve in life. It doesn’t matter what everyone else has or what everyone does, it’s about YOU and your life.

Try it. You’ll be much happier. You’ll have less stress. And you’ll live a longer and healthier life too.

Until next time!


Tuesday, July 13, 2010

“Wife nagging me to give her hypnotic gastric band” -

Phew! It suddenly seems like everyone wants to lose weight.

The sale of my book ‘weight Loss The Forgotten Secret’ is going through the roof— again!

The phone’s ringing off the hook…

..must be the weather?

Or is it the thought of trying to squeeze into last summer’s swimsuit?

Who knows…

…but one thing I do know, is this…

…my wife is “nagging” me like crazy! She wants me to ZAP her into a deep trance and give her a hypnotic Gastric band!

Yeah, I’m under real pressure!

You see I cured my wife of her smoking habit a few years back. And now she insists that I help her lose her muffin top.

So I told her what I tell all my clients: I said, “Deborah, if you are really serious about losing weight I can help you, but if not— I can’t it’s as simple as that”.

I’m still waiting for her rely.

Find out…”How you can lose weight with hypnosis”, click here

Have a terrific day!


Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Procrastinating Again?

We all do it. We rarely know why. And yet, we feel helpless to do anything about it. Procrastination is crippling—and can potentially destroy our lives.

Let me give you a few examples: If you were to put off asking out the woman, or man of you’re your dreams, you could –and probably would—lose an opportunity to find happiness. If you took too long to make an important business decision, you would surely loose an opportunity to make money.

Imagine what would happen if you SUDDENLY STOPPED paying your mortgage— Scary thought!

Procrastination: The express train to a stressful life

If you want to crank up your stress levels—start procrastinating—trust me—it works! Okay, you’re probably thinking to your-self ‘NO THANKS’ but, this is what many of us do everyday of our lives. We put off important things, like making money, starting our diet, or even urgent stuff, like filling out our tax returns.

There may be times when delaying things serve a purpose: Putting off buying a new car, if your job is on the line, would be one good reason. Or, postponing your wedding, if you’re having second thoughts. These would both be good reasons for dragging your feet.

But on the other hand, if you put off looking for another job because you hate the one you’re in, nothing will change. You just stay unhappy doing the job you do. So how do we get ourselves moving?

Understand this: When you keep putting off something that is really important to you: Starting a new business, or pursuing a promising relationship, you could be re-acting to fear. Maybe you fear failure. Perhaps you fear the attention that goes with success. You might avoid taking a risk with a relationship because you don’t feel worthy enough.

Another reason we may procrastinate— is if we lack—or believe we lack the required skills to succeed. The trick is to gather just enough information and skill to get started. This will give you enough confidence to get going. Remember, starting can be the hardest part.

3 ways to beat procrastination

  1. THINK AND DO IT NOW! In his great book ‘The Success System That Never Fails’ W. Clement Stone talks about his simple philosophy of success. Stone believes that when we desire to achieve something, we should first THINK, and then DO IT NOW! Remember, ACTION is the cure for IN-ACTION!

  1. Make sure you have enough knowledge, and enough skill to get started. You can always add more as you go along. But the most important thing—is to START!

  1. If you have an important goal, and you find yourself doing everything in your power to sabotage it, you may be experiencing fear. Spend some time exploring your thoughts. Discover whether you fear failure—or even success. It would be well worth your while doing a little self-analysis in this area of your life.

We all procrastinate at times. And it’s natural up to a point. But when we become crippled with fear—we need to pay attention.

Remember, life is precious. Life is short. Life is an adventure. So make sure you take action. THINK AND DO IT NOW!

Until next time!


Monday, May 10, 2010

7 Psychological Weight Loss Tricks

I usually know when people are trying to lose a few extra pounds for the summer. I know, because my book ‘Weight Loss the Forgotten Secret’ starts to sell like hot cakes again.

It’s understandable, just the thought of exposing over 90 % of my body to the world is a scary thought. So, what can we do to make ourselves look, and feel, sexier over the coming months?

Here’s what I recommend you do:

1. Start today! Don’t wait until tomorrow. There is no worse way to sabotage your goal than putting off starting your diet. It makes no sense! The sooner you start, the sooner you begin to see results.

2. Realise this: you never blow your diet. NEVER! If you succumb to the odd piece of cake, or chocolate, SO WHAT! If you think that you won’t EVER drift off your diet, and munch on a piece of pizza—or two, you’re wrong. You may hope you don’t have off days with your diet, but the reality is, you more than likely will. The secret is being able to get back on track again, and of course, avoid beating yourself up in the process.

3. Buy smaller plates. Yeah, I guess you know that already. But have you done it? If not— why not? … it works!

4. Get addicted to walking. It’s the best way to lose weight—period! Start off with 20 minutes a day, and then build up.

5. Make sure you get plenty of sleep. Research has shown that people who sleep for 5 hours or less tend to eat more. This is because when you sleep for 5 hours or less your body produces a hormone that increases your appetite. The good news is, you have another hormone that reduces your appetite when you sleep 8 hours or more.

6. Watch your stress levels. When we become stressed, most of us tend to overeat. It’s our way of coping. Take up yoga, or listen to some relaxation CDs. Do whatever you can to control your daily stress levels.

7. Eat slowly, ve-e-ry slowly! Recent research suggests that when we slow our eating speed down, we can reduce our weight by as much as 2 to 3 pounds a month!

That’s it. Now think about how you can use these tips to take control of your weight, starting today, of course.

Until next time


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Tuesday, April 20, 2010

3 Steps to Happiness!

I am amazed how many people still believe, money, along with finding the perfect partner, will make them happy. If this were true, there would be a lot more happiness in this world.

Money is everywhere. There are potential soul mates everywhere. But still, happiness seems to elude millions of people…


It is pretty well accepted in cognitive psychology that our thoughts and beliefs are what determine how we feel. In other words, it’s not what happens to us, but how we view what happens to us that creates our experience. The Greek philosopher’ ‘Epictetus’ sums it up like this…

“People are not disturbed by things, but by their rigid and extreme views of things.”

Now, some may think, that it’s outside events that influence the way we feel. This is understandable, because if there was a big fire in a hotel and everyone narrowly escaped death, most would be affected to some degree. Some would indeed be traumatised, but others would be only mildly affected, and a few might may even think ‘Phew, lucky escape’ and leave it at that. This is because everyone views their experiences in a different way.

Happiness to a large extend is within in our own control. Nothing, or no-one, can truly make us happy. To some degree, it is our lack of awareness of our thoughts that make us search outside ourselves for answers. Stress affects our thinking. When we become stressed, our thinking becomes distorted, and as a result we tend to focus on the negative side of things.

3 steps to more happiness…
  1. Learn to relax…when we are relaxed, we feel happier, and are more aware of our thinking process…
  2. Notice your thoughts. Remember, irrational thoughts create unhappiness.
  3. Re-frame your irrational thinking into rational thinking.
Let’s take a look at how we do this:

1. Learn to relax…you could learn progressive relaxation: This is the technique of relaxing every muscle in your body…You may take up meditation…mindfulness meditation is best, because it helps you to focus on your thoughts. Or you might discover the wonderful techniques of self-hypnosis…a personal favourite of mine.

2. Notice your irrational thinking: which is usually made up of statements, like… “I must”, or “I should”. Must and should statements create anxiety. They place unrealistic demands upon us. “I must do well at my interview” “I should be more successful in life”…etc.

3. The last step is to re-frame these irrational thoughts: Instead of telling yourself that “I should do well at my interview” you might say to yourself, “I want to do well at my interview, and I am going to do my best, but if I don’t succeed, it’s not the end of my world.” Or instead of saying “I should be more successful in life” try saying to yourself “I want to be successful in life, and I do the best I can to make it happen, but if I don’t do well I can still have a happy, interesting, and healthy life.”

When we feel overwhelmed or distressed, it is usually helpful to rationalise the situation, or event. The steps above need to become a life habit if you want to get results, not just something you try once or twice. Like shaking hands, eventually, you just find yourself doing it naturally. Of course, there is much more you can do to change your thinking, but these three steps are a good place to start.

Until next time


Wednesday, March 03, 2010

A story about you…

Every year in London, I give a lecture on hypnosis. It’s always lots of fun and the students love it. At the beginning of the talk I tell a quick story. It sets the stage for the whole presentation. The students come from all cultures. Some are from Russia, China, and Japan. Others are from Italy, Spain and other parts of Europe. At the end of the story I see smiles all around the room. This is because it applies to almost all of us. You and me too!

Here is the story…

…According to legend, many years ago, high up on Mount Olympus, the gods created man. They wanted to make man in the same image of themselves – powerful. The challenge was, where would they put man’s power where he would not easily find it? You see, the gods were worried because if man was to find his power too easily, he might use it to overthrow them and they wouldn’t want that to happen.

Night after night, the gods sat around the campfire high up in the mountains discussing where to hide man’s power.

One god said, ‘Let’s put it deep in the heart of the forest; he will never get to it there.’

Another god said, ‘I know, let’s put at the bottom of the ocean.’

But the gods all disagreed. No, if he’s as clever as we are, he’ll find it in all of those places. And so they continued, night after night, discussing where to put man’s power.

‘Let’s put it deep inside a cave, with a large boulder over the opening, to prevent him from getting in,’ said a god.

‘No, let’s put it high up on a mountain,’ said another.

But all the gods agreed that man would be just too smart, and he’d soon find that power and find a way to use it.

And so they continued, night after night, discussing where they could put man’s power.

After much deliberation, and many long nights, one god stood up and said excitedly, ‘I have it! I know where we can put man’s power, where he’ll never think to look’.

The gods looked at him with anticipation.

The god smiled, and said, ‘Right inside himself. He will never think to look there.’

Have you?

To Your Success

Monday, January 25, 2010

At Last…A Hypnotherapy Directory that Promises to Deliver!

The hypnotherapy profession is growing—and fast.

There is plenty of evidence that proves hypnotherapy works. It has been shown to greatly improve results in CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) and there are numerous studies that prove the effectiveness of hypnosis on IBS (Irritable bowel syndrome).

Millions have quit smoking with hypnosis and millions more have lost weight with the help of hypnotherapy. The profession of hypnotherapy has come a long way indeed over the last twenty years.

But here’s the problem: the public are confused. There are so many different styles and philosophies out there that people need more information as to what type of hypnotherapy is best for them and who they can trust to deliver it—this lack of clarity is a real threat to the credibility of the profession.

Now there is a new website that offers a great service for those looking for a hypnotherapist: . It is a professional directory and it’s free to use!

Imagine, you want to find a hypnotherapist but you don’t have a clue where to start—you simply go the hypnotherapy directory and type in the geographical area that you are looking for. A list will then come up of all the hypnotherapists that have been fully checked by the directory. You will find information about the different organisations and articles about different subjects: weight control, stopping smoking, IBS etc. There is also information about fees, type of training and the different services that are available. You get all the answers you need!

The reality is that hypnotherapy is a relationship between client and hypnotherapist. You have to like and trust your chosen therapist—that’s a large part of what makes it work. You need to choose a well trained hypnotherapist who cares, and that’s where this new directory can be a reliable resource.

My conclusion: anyone looking for a hypnotherapist will find this directory valuable. The time for hypnotherapy is NOW! And now is the time for a good, professional website that can help people make the right choices.

To Your Success!


Monday, January 11, 2010

How to Make Your New Year’s Resolution Stick!

Imagine … its late January and you’re trying to lose weight. You’re sick of eating salad in sub-zero conditions, you’re dying for a cigarette and you’re still thinking about starting that new business.

You think to hell with it! You eat some chocolate, have a few glasses of wine and a cigarette, because it goes with the wine, and try to convince yourself that your job is not so bad … what’s happening? Nothing—and that’s the problem, you are going back to your old patterns of behaviour again.

But it’s not your fault, because you are almost hardwired to keep on doing what you have been doing—that’s the way our brain works. It’s not easy trying to change old habits and behaviours and when your conscious mind is in conflict with your unconscious mind your unconscious usually wins.

The biggest mistake most people make when trying to make New Year’s Resolutions is trying to do too much at once. They want to stop smoking, lose weight, change their career and stop biting their nails all at the same time! Impossible … it’s not going to happen.

The trick is to focus on one thing at a time—and is the magic word. Think of it like this: over the years you have programmed your mind to do what you currently do, whether it’s smoking, eating too much (or whatever). You made a great job of making it stick and now it’s your job to de-programme, or de-hypnotise, yourself. You have to work on changing your beliefs about what it is you do that you don’t like.

Easy really … well not easy, but certainly do-able. It all depends on how much you want to make those changes.

The first thing you need to do is plan what you want to achieve. Think about what you need to do in order to achieve your goal—notice I said goal and not goals. Remember, you want to focus on just one thing at a time. If you want to lose 20 pounds of fat you may need to think about planning your eating schedule and how much time you are going to commit to exercise.

You also need to start visualising your actions—imagine going through all the necessary steps you need to take in order to achieve your goal. Start to believe you can do it. How? The most powerful tool you have is to act against your existing belief (the one you hold now), in other words act as if you can. You need to convince yourself that you do believe that you can do it, and you do this by self-affirmation. You might have to do this 40 or even 50 times each day.

Sound like a lot of work? Well, people who succeed at making changes do just this, even if they are not consciously aware of it. So, decide what you want to achieve, plan it, get into the habit of acting against your old belief, and affirm to yourself that you can do it.

Think back to a time when you achieved something that was important to you, something you are proud of—this will help you. Remember these points…

1. Act against your current beliefs about what it is you want to change…

2. Affirm to yourself that you can do it…

3. Imagine a past challenge that you overcame. One that you are proud of…

Now commit to your chosen goal, and MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Happy New Year!